THE ELITE WIFE BECOMING JOURNAL LAUNCHING SOON!

I HOPE YOUR MARRIAGE ENDS IN DEATH

Cause the alternative isn't particularly attractive either.

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After reading that title I could almost hear you say,

"Have you completely lost your mind?", "why would you hope for something like that?"

Fair questions honestly. But stay with me sweetie, I promise I'm going somewhere with this.

But if you strongly feel like you want to chop my neck off for that title, I should probably mention that I didn't come up with it, James Sexton did. So go after him not me.

He's the one who pointed out that every marriage ends in one of two ways:

Divorce or death. That's it. Those are the only two available exits out of marriage. And personally, I'm rooting for the death exit. Now the title doesn't sound quite as unhinged, does it? Here's what I'm really trying to say sweetie:

If your marriage must end one day, and it will, then I'm hoping it ends after decades of love, friendship, growth, forgiveness, shared memories, and a lifetime of choosing each other. I'm talking about the kind of death that arrives after forty years of shared inside jokes, family holidays, burnt dinners and silly arguments

That's the ending I'm hoping for.

Because if we're being honest, most people spend a lot of time thinking about getting married and surprisingly little time thinking about staying married.

And those are two completely different things. Getting married takes a day while staying married takes a lifetime. One requires a venue, the other requires character. And yet somehow we've convinced ourselves that the wedding is the main event.

It's fascinating when you think about it. You'll spend days comparing venue options. You'll save three hundred and forty-seven Pinterest wedding pins.

But when it comes to the actual marriage? Many people are operating on the"I'll figure it out when I get there" strategy. Imagine applying that strategy anywhere else- "I want to run a marathon." Wonderful. What's the training plan? "I'll figure it out in the marathon."

It sounds ridiculous right? Yet that is exactly how many people approach marriage. Not because they're careless or foolish. But because we've been taught to focus on the wedding more than the marriage.

We're taught to imagine the highlights, you know, the proposal, the dress, the honeymoon etcetera. But nobody really talks about the ordinary where marriage actually lives.

Because marriage lives and thrives on the ordinary not the grandiose. Marriage lives in communication, in conflict resolution, in self-awareness, in emotional maturity, in apologising and forgiving. Marriage lives in learning how to love another human being when they're being slightly annoying.

Thing is, a thriving marriage rarely happens by accident sweetie. A thriving marriage is built, intentionally. 

And I get it. I used to think that way too, that I'll figure out how to cross the bridge when I get there. I was, with due respect, foolish and naive, just like you probably are.

A few years ago, if somebody had asked me: "What exactly are you doing to prepare for marriage?"

I probably would've given a very spiritual answer like; Praying, trusting God and waiting on God's timing. And while those things matter, eventually I realised they weren't really answering the question. Because preparation isn't just spiritual. It's practical too.

Seriously sweetie, have you ever stopped to think about the baggage you might carry into marriage? The not so good communication habits you've inherited from your family? The unrealistic expectations about marriage you've never examined? The fears and traumas you never addressed that will eventually show up in marriage?

Because marriage has a funny way of introducing you to yourself. I like to say, "sometimes the biggest surprise waiting in marriage isn't your spouse, It's you."

That realisation was what actually birthed The Elite Wife Becoming Journal. Not because I believed a journal could guarantee a happy marriage or magically transform someone into the perfect wife. If only it were that easy.

The journal was born from two simple questions:

What if women prepared for marriage with the same intentionality they prepare for everything else that matters? Could that change the outcome of their marriages? Inside the journal are guided prompts designed to help you explore the conversations most people never have with themselves until after the wedding.

It's a valued packed and very elegant marriage preparation journal that questions your communication patterns, your expectations, your conflict resolution skills, your personal growth, your emotional health, the influence your none intimate relationships will have on your marriage and your identity as a woman first before becoming a wife.

It devotes 8 sections to you before becoming someone's wife and the the last 8 sections focus on you as a wife, that is, how you intend and plan to show up as a wife.

So if you're single with a desire for marriage one day, seriously dating, engaged, or newly wed, or you have been married for a couple of years but you feel you need a reset, I created this journal specifically for you my love.

And if you're already married and feel you have already figured out marriage that's amazing. Truly.

But you probably have a daughter, sister, niece, or a friend who could benefit from this journal. Someone who's spending plenty of time dreaming about marriage but could use a little help preparing for one.

And mind you sweetie, The Elite Wife Becoming Journal isn't about becoming a perfect wife. It's about becoming intentional about preparing for a thriving marriage.

And if you're hoping your marriage ends in death too — many, many decades from now, then perhaps start preparing for the life that comes after the wedding now. Don't wait until you're inside it, do it now sweetie. You'll thank me later.

You can reserve yourself a copy here.