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THE MARRIAGE CHECKLIST THEY FORGOT TO GIVE YOU: PHASE ONE

Becoming The Woman Before Becoming The Wife: Who am I

"I don't even recognize myself anymore, I feel like somewhere along the way, I lost myself in this marriage". She confessed, staring absent-mindedly into her untouched cappuccino. She'd been married for over a decade.

Her brutally honest friend didn't even flinch.

"No, sweetie," she said gently. "You didn't lose yourself in marriage. Maybe you were so busy preparing to become a wife that you never really got the chance to know yourself first. Let's start there."

We spend so much of our lives preparing to become wives that we rarely stop to ask what kind of women we're becoming in the process.

We dream about sharing a life with someone else before we've learned how to be at home with ourselves. And perhaps that's why so many women wake up ten years into marriage convinced they've lost themselves.

But here's the uncomfortable question...

Can you lose something you never intentionally took the time to find? Knowing yourself isn't a luxury my love. It's one of the greatest gifts you can give your future marriage.

That's exactly why I created The Elite Wife Becoming Journal.

Because the greatest preparation you can make for marriage isn't learning how to live with a husband. It's You. You are the starting point.

The journal  dedicates four whole sections to thought-provoking questions and activities designed to help you become deeply rooted in who you are before you ever become somebody's wife. These are the sections:

1. The Waiting Season: Becoming while you wait

Waiting has a funny way of convincing us that real life hasn't started yet.

"I'll travel after I get married."

"I'll decorate a home after I get married."

Before long, the waiting season quietly becomes a postponement season. But what if the waiting season was never meant to put your life on pause?

What if it was the season where God does some of His deepest work in you. That's the heart behind this opening conversation in The Elite Wife Becoming Journal.

Through thoughtful prompts and honest reflection, it gently shifts your focus from waiting for a husband to becoming the woman you'll one day bring into your marriage.

Because marriage should never be the beginning of your life, it should be the continuation of a life that's already growing beautifully.

2. Me Before We: The self work Foundation

It's fascinating how much time we spend preparing to meet "the one"and how little time we spend getting to know ourselves.

Now sweetie, when I say know yourself, I'm not talking about knowing your favourite colour, your favourite food or your dream holiday destination.

I'm talking about the deeper stuff.

Do you know your values? Your convictions? Your non-negotiables?

The things that make you feel safe and the things that trigger you? Do you understand your attachment style?Your communication style?

Know thyself. As Socrates will say. By the way I love philosophy. But we're not talking about me though. 

I genuinely believe one of the greatest gifts you can give your future husband is self-mastery. 

That's exactly why I included this section in The Elite Wife Becoming Journal.

Through thoughtful prompts and guided reflection, this conversation invites you to do the beautiful work of understanding yourself before asking someone else to understand you

3. Baggage Claim: Healing and Closure

Marriage shouldn't become the storage room for unhealed wounds. Thing is my sweetie, unhealed wounds have a smooth way of showing up.

Sometimes they sound like,

"Why didn't you text me back?"

Sometimes they sound like,

"You're going to leave me just like everyone else."

Sometimes they look like withdrawing, overreacting, people-pleasing.

Marriage has a funny way of exposing wounds we thought we'd buried.That's why this conversation exists inside The Elite Wife Becoming Journal.

Not to make you relive your pain but to help you heal from it before it quietly begins writing parts of your marriage story. You deserve to heal sweetie and your future husband deserves the healed version of yourself.

4. Working the Magic: What I want my marriage to feel and look like 

It's funny how easily we inherit ideas about marriage without ever realising it.

A little from our parents, our friends,  church and a little from k-drama. Before long, we're carrying a picture of marriage that somebody else painted.

But,

What do you  actually want your marriage to look and feel like?

Do you want a home that's peaceful? One that's playful? One where laughter comes easily? Every marriage develops a culture.

The question is whether you'll create yours intentionally or quietly inherit someone else's.

That's exactly why I included this section in The Elite Wife Becoming Journal.

To help you think about the atmosphere, values and rhythms you hope will define your future marriage.

Anyways sweetie, I've spoken at length. But these are just four of the sixteen conversations inside The Elite Wife Becoming Journal. If you're ready to stop merely dreaming about marriage and start intentionally preparing for it, I'd recommend for you to reserve your copy here.

If you're still not yet convinced, that's perfectly okay sweetie. This was only Phase One.

There are three more phases to explore, each offering another glimpse into the conversations inside the Journal. Read them first. Get a feel of the journal. Decide whether it speaks to the kind of woman and wife you want to become.

If by the end of all four phases, you still don't feel excited about getting your hands on this journal, well... I'll be genuinely surprised.

But anyways sweetie go on about your day, stay safe and I'll see you in Phase Two.