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THE MARRIAGE CHECKLIST THEY FORGOT TO GIVE YOU: PHASE TWO

The Imaginative Woman Vs The Intentional Woman

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Pull up a chair sweetie, this one is juicy.

But first, a quick sweep. If you've been here since Phase One, welcome back. Or, if this is your first visit, welcome in Sweetie! You've just wandered into Phase Two of The Marriage Checklist They Forgot to Give You.

I know you're a very busy woman but if you do get the chance, I'd encourage you to go back and read Phase One. In it we explored how marriage begins with a 'You' before there's ever a 'We'. It begins with becoming deeply rooted in yourself. Knowing You, your identity as a woman before a wife.

Today's conversation builds on that foundation. Because knowing yourself is only half the story. The next question is:

What kind of marriage are you intentionally preparing to build?

Have you ever heard of the imaginative woman sweetie?

She's quite fascinating that one. She has rehearsed her wedding day more times than she'd ever admit. She knows exactly what her dress looks like. She even knows the song she'll walk down the aisle to. Sometimes it gets extreme, she can even imagine the surname before she's met the man.

But if you ask her what kind of marriage she is intentionally trying to build in future? suddenly her wild imagination goes quiet.

Because she's can only imagine the wedding, not the marriage. You're probably familiar with this woman sweetie. Because there's a good chance... she's you.

That's why the insightful questions regarding these four sections inside the Elite Wife Becoming Journal are so important. They shift your attention to intentionally designing the marriage you hopes to build in future. They are:

Working the Magic

Every marriage has a culture. A rhythm if you will. The question is whether you'll create it intentionally or you'll outsource that to people around you and social media.

You must ask yourself...

  • When people walk into my future home, what do I hope they feel? Peace? Warmth? Laughter? Safety?

Friendship & Sisterhood

The women you surround yourself with will quietly shape the way you think about marriage. Your circle will influence your marriage whether consciously or subconsciously. Choose friends who celebrate your marriage, speak wisdom into it and remind you to fight for it, not quietly compete with it or undermine it.

Ask yourself...

  • Do the women closest to me inspire me to become a better wife or do they make me cynical about marriage?

My Journey, Not Hers

Comparison in marriage is real. It's sneaky but very real and it has ruined many marriages.

You must ask yourself...

  • Whose marriage do I secretly envy and why? Because chances are you will inevitably compare your future marriage to it.

  • The journal takes you through thought-provoking questions around comparison in marriage that we often overlook.

The Voice of Love

Your tongue will either make or break your future marriage. Your tone of voice. Your choice of words. Your communication style when frustrated. You must be aware of your communication habits now, because they won't magically change once you get married. This section of the journal takes you through that.

Here's what I hope you take away from today's conversation, sweetie.

Don't leave your future marriage to chance. Imagine it. Design it. Then make the decisions today that align with that design.

And if you'd like a companion to help you do exactly that, I'd be honoured to walk that journey with you through the Elite Wife Becoming Journal, which you can reserve right here.

By the way, this is only Phase Two of the journey my love.

There are still two more phases waiting for you, each opening the door to another set of conversations from the Elite Wife Becoming Journal—conversations about intimacy, finances, conflict, habits, boundaries and building a marriage that stands the test of time.

So don't disappear just yet.

Read the next two phases. Let them challenge you. Let them stretch you. Let them help you imagine a marriage that's built with intention rather than left to chance.

And if, somewhere along the way, you find yourself thinking,

"This is exactly the kind of preparation I've been looking for." Then I can't recommend the Elite Wife Becoming Journal enough.