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THE MARRIAGE CHECKLIST THEY FORGOT TO GIVE YOU: PHASE TWO

The Imaginative Woman Gets Intentional

Have you ever heard of the imaginative woman sweetie?

She's quite fascinating that one. She has rehearsed her wedding day more times than she'd ever admit. She knows exactly what her dress looks like.

She even knows the song she'll walk down the aisle to. Sometimes it gets extreme! she can even imagine the surname before she's met the man.

But if you ask her what kind of marriage she is intentionally trying to build in future? suddenly her wild imagination goes quiet.

Because she's can only imagine the wedding, not the marriage. And funny thing is, there is a good chance you know this woman, because there's a very good chance she's you. 

Ooops...I caught you, didn't I? Don't worry, I won't tell a soul.

Now, before we carry on, a tiny quick sweep.

If this is your very first coffee date with me, I'm so glad you found your way here sweetie. You've just stumbled into Phase Two of The Marriage Checklist They Forgot to Give You, a four-part series exploring the sixteen thought-provoking conversations/sections inside my flagship journal, The Elite Wife Becoming Journal.

If you haven't had a chance to read Phase One yet, I'd really encourage you to go back to it afterwards. These conversations build on one another, and together they're designed to help you prepare for marriage with intention, not assumption.

Now, let's talk about the circle that will surround and influence your future marriage. Marriage doesn't exist in a vacuum my love. Your friendships, family, expectations and comparisons will quietly influence it, sometimes long before you say, "I do."

That's exactly what the next four conversations inside The Elite Wife Becoming Journal invite you to explore:

5. Friendship & Sisterhood: Your circle is part of your marriage story

One thing I've noticed is that marriages are rarely influenced by just two people. They're quietly influenced by the people standing around them. The women who celebrate your marriage, the women who speak life into it, the women who remind you to fight for it when things get hard.

But circles can also work the other way. Some friendships quietly influence disrespect in your marriage, some plant divorce seeds in your subconcious mind and others make comparison feel almost unavoidable.

That's why I believe your friendships deserve just as much attention as your future marriage. The Elite Wife Becoming Journal invites you to reflect on the women you're allowing to influence your thinking, your expectations and your view of marriage.

Because your future husband won't just marry you. In many ways, he'll also experience the voices of the women you've chosen to keep close.

6. My Journey, Not Hers: Comparison and Competition

Comparison in marriage is real. It's sneaky but very real. Comparison whispers...

"Why isn't my relationship like theirs?"

"Why isn't my husband as romantic?"

The trouble with comparison is that you're usually comparing your ordinary life to someone else's highlight reel moment.

Before long, your marriage is no longer being measured against your values. It's being measured against someone else's story.

That's exactly why I included this conversation in The Elite Wife Becoming Journal. Through thoughtful prompts, it helps you uncover where comparison might quietly creep into your marriage and gently reminds you that the healthiest marriages aren't copied, they're created.

7. Our Circle, Our Monkeys:When Family Becomes Too Familiar

Marriage doesn't just introduce you to a husband.

It introduces you to everybody who loves having an opinion about your marriage. Parents, siblings, In-laws and let's not forget the well-meaning auntie and the family friend who somehow knows exactly how you should run your home.

Before you know it, everybody has a seat at the table except the two people the marriage actually belongs to.

The Elite Wife Becoming Journal invites you to think carefully about family dynamics, healthy boundaries and the kind of marriage culture you want to protect before outside voices become louder than your own.

8. The Silent Contract: The Invisible Rulebook

Have you ever expected someone to do something without ever telling them you expected it? Welcome to the world of silent contracts. Everyone of us carries an invisible rulebook about marriage.

"A husband should..."

"A wife should..."

"Good marriages always..."

The fascinating part? Most of those rules were never consciously chosen, they were inherited. From family, culture, church and from the marriages we grew up watching.

The problem is that unspoken expectations have a habit of becoming spoken disappointments. That's why I included The Invisible Rulebook section in The Elite Wife Becoming Journal.

This conversation helps you uncover the assumptions you're carrying into marriage before they quietly begin shaping it. Because expectations don't disappear simply because they're never discussed, rather they become resentments.

Enough said!

Here's what I hope you take away from today's coffee date sweetie.

Don't leave your future marriage to chance. Imagine it. Then make the decisions and choose people today that align with that design.

And if you'd like a companion to help you do exactly that, I'd be honoured to walk that journey with you through The Elite Wife Becoming Journal, which you can reserve right here.

By the way, this is only Phase Two of the journey my love.

There are still two more phases waiting for you, each opening the door to another set of conversations from the Elite Wife Becoming Journal—conversations about intimacy, finances, conflict, habits, boundaries and building a marriage that stands the test of time.

So don't disappear just yet.

Read the next two phases. Let them challenge you. Let them stretch you. Let them help you imagine a marriage that's built with intention rather than left to chance.

And if, somewhere along the way, you find yourself thinking,

"This is exactly the kind of preparation I've been looking for." Then I can't recommend The Elite Wife Becoming Journal enough.