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THE TONGUE WILL FAIL YOU.

The heart is willing but the tongue is weak.

Have you ever rehearsed an entire conversation in your head and then completely butchered it when the person finally stood in front of you?

In your head, the speech was magnificent.

You were finally going to tell your mom how much you appreciate her. Or perhaps you were going to tell your friend just how incredible you think she is.

Maybe you were going to apologise (a real one, not the quick “sorry if you felt that way” you mutter while hoping the ground swallows you whole).

Or maybe you were finally going to look at your man and tell him, properly,how much you love and adore him.

Then the moment arrived and somehow all that came out was: "Yeah... so... um...". Followed by absolute nonsense.

Well, the good news is for most of us, our tongues just have a remarkable talent of abandoning us at the worst possible moments. So be consoled sweetie, many of us are just poor victims of our own tongues, you're not alone.

And the painful part, most of us don't struggle because we don't care. We struggle because we care too much. The words suddenly feel too important, too vulnerable, too exposing.

Can I ask you something sweetie?

How many conversations have you postponed, not because you had nothing to say, but because you couldn't quite find the courage to say it?

Which is why I think most of us bite our tongues far more often than we realize. Not literally, of course. We bite back apologies, we bite back gratitude, we bite back affection and we bite back encouragement.

Not because we don't feel those things, but because somewhere between our hearts and our mouths, the words get stuck.

You know what's funny though?

Some people can argue a court case, negotiate a business deal or give a presentation in front of hundreds of people.

But ask them to tell their mother how much they appreciate her and suddenly they're fighting for their lives. Ask them to apologize sincerely and they develop a mysterious inability to form complete sentences.

I don't know sweetie, but I think we've become a little too casual with important words.

We throw around "love you" like we're ending a phone call with customer service. We say "thank you" while already walking away. Then we wonder why our relationships sometimes feel a little shallow.

Important words deserve more than drive-through service.

That's why I'll always recommend writing and letters. Because writing slows you down. Writing gives your heart enough time to catch up with your mouth.

You can choose your words carefully. You can say what you actually mean before nerves, pride, panic, or awkwardness hijack the conversation.

But then you take things up a notch and write it on a beautifully decorated paper. Now we're talking. The whole thing just screams: EFFORT!

I mean don't get me wrong the message matters most, of course, but presentation has always been part of the experience. A beautifully decorated paper instantly tells the other person, "I didn't throw this together in thirty minutes. I put thought into this."

That's actually why I created The decorated prompted papers.

Each one is beautifully designed and comes with a gentle opening prompt at the top to help you begin and a thoughtful closing prompt at the bottom to help you end warmly.

No staring at a blank page, no wondering where to start and no overthinking.

So if you've been meaning to apologize, thank someone, encourage someone, comfort someone, or remind someone that you love them, maybe don't try saying it with your tongue. Because at this point we can both agree that the tongue is not always the best agent.

MAYBE WRITE IT.

And if you'd like a beautiful place to begin, visit the Shop page and explore The prompted papers collection. I created them for moments exactly like these, moments when your heart knows exactly what it wants to say, but your tongue has decided to clock out for the day.

But hey, if your trust your tongue, go for it sweetie. I'll cheer for you nonetheless. But I'm just saying your hand can do a better job. But at the end of the day, may the best communicator win!